It is important to have an opinion of your own. Spineless are the people who don’t have their own opinions, and still worse, some of them take pride in saying they are guided by some one else’s thoughts. There is something between your two ears as well. Perhaps it is not a bad idea to use it and get some life enthused in it.
Some people put their opinion so beautifully that, your opinion might still hold good, but they incline you to listen to theirs, sometimes end up provoking your sub-conscious to vote for their opinion, which also leaves your conscious widely perplexed, little restless, but seldom unhappy! Good orators are scarce in number and high in demand. For someone like me, beautiful expressions are complete turn on. I remember how people longed to get trained by Avinash Gulrajani. Not because he was cute, that was an added bonus :-), but because he spoke so well. Listening to him in itself was a sheer joy which trainees looked forward to.
There is a category that has an opinion, voice it if you ask for it, don’t care if you agree or not, they still respect their opinion. They also listen to yours, and if it is not abusive of anything, respect it without having to agree with it. They are not rigid, they are not persnickety, but they really believe in what they believe and that’s driven by logic. It is not a baseless fantasy of a sprite which they are supporting for the fun of it.
The next category is of some people who can never agree with any opinion that does not tally with theirs. They often end up getting into debates on opinions but are absolutely closed to appreciate anyone else's. These people are perennially involved in fights, irk people no end.
And then there are people who have opinion alright, a sound one at that, but when the time comes to voice it, they voice it so abusively, so aggressively, that though you could have agreed with them earlier, never after hearing they voiced. Because finally it is not only “what” that matters, “how” is equally important if not more. Abrasive language impresses none, read it in caps and bold – NONE. You will always fail to make a point even if it is a very valid one.
So next time you want to make a point, if you want to get yourself heard, remember a golden rule – Mind your language!