Impractical as it may sound, it is quite a common phenomenon. People give up some of their dearest of things because they associate these things with some people in their lives. Subsequently like and dislike towards these things becomes commensurate with friendship or relationship with the person it is associated with. For instance, some people start avoiding their favourite fragrances after the person who wore it walks out of their lives. Some associate some songs with people or with some moments spent with them. These songs, which were beautiful always, suddenly start sounding painful after things do not remain the same between them. Why should you give up something that you like for someone who doesn't care?
16 grown-ups sitting in a circle. One game of Chinese whisper. Being played as part of corporate training. Trainer whispers something in the first person’s ear. I am third in the sequence. I hear one word whispered to me, and that is what I pass on. People are taking longer suddenly in the middle in passing the word. It is whispered into the last person’s ear. She has to now say out aloud. She says, “When you ask for a pencil, you get a pair of scissors.” Coming reverse in the same circle, you see some – a. smiling faces – expression reads – yeah that’s right! b. confused faces – expression reads – oh! This is not what I said. c. stunned faces (includes mine, and the trainer’s too) – expression reads – what!!!!
I know it smiled often But I had seen it restless too a couple of times I was trying to read its mind And I could see, well not exactly see but may be faintly make out It was perhaps planning to leave Did I really read this? I am not too sure, but I thought I did I needed to act upon fast So very soon I caught it unaware When it was in deep slumber I held it firmly, gripped it tight Pushed it into a can and closed the lid. I locked the can, tied it with a rope And fastened it to one of the solid iron bars of the store room window I checked on it every couple of hours But could not believe the fact That it still escaped.
Relationships and friendships flourish when let free. As someone rightly said: “If you love someone, set him free If he comes back, he is yours If he doesn’t, he never was.”